I constantly struggle with my schedule. It is a love-hate relationship in which it is mostly the latter. Every week I look at my calendar to make my official to-do list. Then every morning when I wake up, I take another, fresher look.
I do this because I have read this is one of the habits of successful people, but sometimes it just overwhelms me. I recently heard the question, "Are you tired from all of things you have done? Or are you tired from the things you haven't done?" I think I am tired from all of the things that I haven't even had a chance to do yet.
After a lot of recent thought about this, I have decided there are a few options. One is to hire an assistant. And while this will be necessary soon, I don't believe this is getting to the root of the problem at hand. The second option is to prioritize and learn to say "no." This is a word I have a lot of issues with; I don't like hearing it and I don't like saying it. When someone comes to me with an opportunity, as an entrepreneur, I have a hard time saying no to anything. My philosophy is that you never know when you are going to meet a potential client. I have been pleasantly surprised time after time about going into events and coming out with some solid leads.
Recently, I spoke at a middle school academic excellence ceremony. It's shocking, I know, 11- and 12-year-olds are not my target audience — but their parents certainly are. Always hustling though can mean never having any free time. So, I am going to learn to say "no" without a reason. I will put my real priorities front and center for my schedule and cut the fat, so to speak.
Notice that so far, I have not said the word "busy." This is because option number three is to stop being busy. Whenever I ask someone "how are you?" More often than not I get some version of "oh you know, busy." Yes, I do know. So does everyone else. We are all busy. It's not a unique characteristic.
Busy to me now connotes not being purposeful with your day. Begin asking yourself, "is what I am doing right now going to help me with where I want to be tomorrow?" That can mean quite literally tomorrow, or figuratively down the road. If it's not helping you with your goals and missions, then say no. Also, thinking of a better response to "how are you?" just makes you a better conversationalist.
We can be the masters of our calendars.
I now realize that it does not have to be a soul-crushing activity and can instead, be something energizing. Let's stop putting "busy" on a pedestal and be more purposeful with our time and actions. I like to remind myself we all have the same hours in a day as Beyonce. Queen B is successful because besides being super-talented, she picks the right projects and prioritizes.
So maybe option four is just asking "What Would Beyonce Do?"
Seems like one of these has to work.
Begin asking yourself, "is what I am doing right now going to help me with where I want to be tomorrow?"